Day 6: Zodiac Sign

Scorpio and Temperament:

Scorpios are extremely ambitious, persistent and determined which is shown through a power hungry, controlling attitude. Not in a stubborn sense however, because a Scorpio will work for what they want and control will justified reasons. This is obvious to any onlooker. A Scorpio never gives up, they are so determined to reach their goal. The key to this success is their flexibility. They are able to re-survey a situation and take a different approach if necessary. This makes them very adaptable and versatile. Scorpios are fierce competitors, combined with their powers of observation and their excellent memory, they will recall facts and when necessary, bring them to the table at the time of need. They will win justly, with proper facts and arguments to support their thoughts and opinions. Scorpios are excellent at restoring order to a chaotic situation and they are just as capable of manipulating for their own greed and benefit. The un-evolved Scorpio is a very dangerous person because they use their powers to benefit only them and step on other people in order to satisfy their own greed.

Scorpio Deep Inside:

Scorpio is the most misunderstood of all astrology signs. They are all about intensity and contradictions. They like to be aware of a situation and always know what’s going on, figuring this out with their probing mind, on the other hand, they are interested in the occult, the paranormal, conspiracy theories and other types of similar unknown mysteries. They are very capable of hiding their true feelings and motivations, they often have ulterior motives or a hidden agenda.
Scorpios are all about control, they need to be in control at all times. To be out of control is very threatening, even dangerous to the Scorpio’s psyche, when they control, they feel safe.
Scorpios are very emotional, their emotions are intensified, both good emotions and bad. Negative emotions of jealousy and resentment are hallmarks of this turbulent astrology sign. On the other side, Scorpios are well known for their forceful and powerful drive to succeed and their amazing dedication. Scorpios are constantly trying to understand their emotions through finding a deeper purpose in life.
Scorpios are very intuitive, but not as in a psychic sense, more as intuitive into the human mind, they have a great understanding of the mystery and the power of the human mind.
Scorpios have a fear of failure which they keep hidden extremely well, should their confrontation not be successful, or their career fail, they will simply use their adaptive skill to quickly move and and leave the bad experience behind. Do not ever expect them to fess up or share their tale with anyone however because this shows signs of weakness and Scorpio always wins, they are always the self-proclaimed best! One of the reasons they seem like they always accomplish their goals is because they set tangible short-term goals that they know they can accomplish, they know what they are capable of and this is what they go for.
Scorpios are very weary about trusting anyone, a person needs to gain their trust and this gets built up over time and once all the ‘trust tests’ have been passed, Scorpio loves deeply and intensely. Underneath the cool exterior, energies and emotions are constantly flowing but the Scorpio deals with this be channeling this into useful activities, hobbies, relationships or a career. This is never apparent to the outside observer but knowing this fact explains why Scorpios are so passionate about whatever it is that they are undertaking. Scorpios have powerful instincts and they trust their own gut feeling which is another reason why a Scorpio seldom fails.
The ongoing lesson in life for those born under the Scorpio zodiac signs, is to channel their powerful energy into positive goals and not succumbing to the darker forces in life such as manipulation and greed, they will then have great success in their life and have a clean, happy conscience and a circle of friends they can trust and hold dear to them.

Scorpio in a Nutshell:

Scorpio is the astrology sign of extremes and intensity. Scorpios are very deep, intense people, there is always more then meets the eye. They present a cool, detached and unemotional air to the world yet lying underneath is tremendous power, extreme strength, intense passion and a strong will and a persistent drive. Scorpios have a very penetrative mind, do not be surprised if they ask questions, they are trying to delve deeper and figure things out and survey the situation. They always want to know why, where and any other possible detail they can possibly know. Scorpio’s are very weary of the games that other people try to play and they are very aware of it. Scorpios tend to dominate and control anyone that lets them, or anyone that they find weak. The person that a Scorpio respects and holds close to them is treated with amazing kindness, loyalty and generosity. On the outside, a Scorpio has great secretiveness and mystery. This magnetically draws people to them. They are known to be controlling and too ambitious but only because they need control for this makes them feel safe.

With that stated, I am truly a Scorpio. Most of these traits are me to a T. Aka: Psychotic. Haha. And I’m a red headed one at that. BOOM! 🙂

Day 5: Favorite Comfort Foods

My favorite comfort food is peanut m&ms. Actually it’s usually just anything chocolate, but lately peanut m&ms have been my go to. Not sure why I just love them. And been needing comfort a lot which is not good cuz now I’m getting bigger instead of losing weight. 😦

What’s your comfort foods?

Mom, They’ll See My Fat

Said my almost 7 year old as we were on a nice long walk. He had been complaining he was hot and had already taken off his sweater and wanted to take off his long sleeve shirt but didn’t have an under shirt on. So I told him, “just take it off, no one is going to see you.” He lifts up his shirt and says, “if someone comes by they’ll see my fat.”

Now, my son is not even 40 pounds. I can see his ribs at times. I was shocked when he said it. But then I realized, why shouldn’t he think he can say that. He hears me say it. He hears us joke around with siblings or in general calling each other fatty. Of course he would repeat it.

So I had to explain to him and my daughter that they are not to call themselves, each other, or anyone else fat. That they are by no means at all fat and even if they were they would still be handsome/beautiful.

Guess this momma needs to watch the things she says!

Day 4: Religion

My beliefs are just that. Mine. I respect others beliefs and expect the same in return. I believe in one God, the God. I believe his Son Jesus came to earth to save us. I believe he died on the cross and rose from the grave to save us from our sins. Any thing other than that doesn’t matter.

Just because I am a Christian doesn’t mean I judge anyone else their beliefs, sexuality, or choices. I enjoy learning about other religions, but I do not like people trying to change my mind on my religion. I’d rather you show me your beliefs rather than preach them at me.

If you have any questions, ask away. 🙂

Day 3 Challenge: 5 Pet Peeves

1: People being late ALL the time. I can understand every once in a while, but all the time is ridiculous. This is something that my husband suffers from. And it drives me crazy. To me, if you aren’t early you are late. It upsets me if I’m late for any reason.

2: People inviting themselves over to my home. This one is mainly because I am so introverted (melancholy phlegmatic) that I usually just want to be alone in my house with my family.

3: When number 2 (see above not number 2 as in poop) happens, people who sit there and play on their phone the whole time are a huge pet peeve. I didn’t want you here in the first place and now you are going to sit there texting and watching videos and what not the whole time. Get your butt up and go home to do that.

4: People who do not clean up after themselves. I hate when I just cleaned the house and then my husband or kids just leave their dirty dishes or trash lying around. Huge peeve.

5: Last but not least people who treat animals like kids. No offense, I love pets too, but a pet could never be a child. But people who treat their dogs like babies and throw birthday parties and just completely go over the top…I don’t get it.

So those are my peeves…what are yours?

Easter Break is the Death of Me

I love my kids, truly do, but 10 days off from school with a 6 year old, 5 year old and newborn….. The first day (Monday) wasn’t so terrible, but yesterday they were insane, and today, even more so. I’m not sure how I will make it over the summer.
They just have SO MUCH energy and I do not. Not to mention living in your parents house doesn’t leave much room for their craziness. Heaven help me, we don’t go back til next Tuesday and my little brother starts his tomorrow… Hope I survive.

Sanguine

In a nutshell…
Sanguine people are boisterous, bubbly, chatty, openly emotional, social extroverts.

Social
Sanguines find social interactions with faces both familiar and unfamiliar invigorating. This is how they recharge, and time alone – while sometimes desirable – can bore them quickly.

The more people they’re surrounded by, the better they feel, and they’re not picky about who they get to know. They enjoy having many, many friends.

While sanguines enjoy being around other people, it’s largely because they enjoy the attention of others and feel good about the fact that they are not lonely.

They are talkers more than they are listeners.

They may move away from friends that they consider to be boring or dull.

They are bubbly, fun-loving, extroverted people-people who are always in the mood for a good time. They love wild nights out.

They make friends quickly, and they’ll cheerily talk to strangers. People of the melancholic temperament might perceive a room of twenty strangers as frightening or uncomfortable, while a sanguine might see them as opportunities to meet new friends.

They are not picky, and will usually like more things than they dislike. They tend to enjoy things that are trendy, popular, and so on.

They enjoy social situations, and believe that everyone else would too. They’re likely to convince people to come along with things like ‘come on, you’ll enjoy it!’ or ‘you don’t know what you’re missing!’

Being friends with a Sanguine is often as simple as knowing each other’s face and name.

They aren’t particularly trustworthy… as they’ll be too eager to spill secrets with others, and their general flightiness can make them unreliable as they’re likely to get easily distracted by other things.

Expressive
They are talkative, and speak in a friendly, energetic, playful kind of way; they’re often charismatic, and when interacting with them, you can feel like you’ve known them all your life.

They are very emotional, and their emotions can be extreme but fleeting. They are the sorts who will be screaming “I HATE YOU I HATE YOU!!” one day, then mere hours later, they’ll be profusely apologising about it, then expecting everything to all be water under the bridge after that.

They are quick to ‘forgive and forget’ – and expect others to do the same – because they live in the moment rather than dwelling in the past.

They tend to have open senses of humour (rather than dry or subtle humour), and laugh and smile often and clearly.

They may tease others in a ‘playful’ way, expecting them not to ‘take it so seriously’.

They are very show-offy and have high self-esteem. They’re prone to bragging, in a ‘look how amazing I am!!’ kind of way rather than ‘I am better than you’ (which is more choleric).

They are extreme in their emotions, and may go through stages of melodramatic misery and self-loathing as well.

They can be very easy-going, suggesting that more serious people ‘mellow out’ or ‘take a chill pill’.

Sanguines can be great motivators, as they’ll enthusiastically encourage others towards action, and they see things positively, optimistically, and would convince others to see things that way too.

They are naturally physical with others, very ‘touchy-feely’, openly expressing their affection through hugs and stroking and grabbing shoulders and things like that.

They could not be said to be neat and tidy. They live in the moment, which can lead to poor planning or disorganisation, messiness.

Attention-Seeking
They love attention. They desire to be in the spotlight, and for people to compliment and praise them. Everyone loves compliments, but sanguines will go out of their way to get them.

They are often performers, party animals, drama queens.

They wish to fit in and be popular. Or, they’ll seek to be Different in a way that will make them remarkable.

The embarrassment of making a fool of themselves is outweighed by the pleasure of putting on a show. They will go to extraordinary lengths to add the life they feel is missing from any party, such as dancing on tables, eating food off the ground, etc.

Of course, the reason they’d do silly things isn’t JUST to get attention. They do these things because them find them amusing themselves.

They require constant entertainment, and will complain about being bored if they are not sufficiently entertained, often at another person who’s failing to entertain them.

They will show off their abilities to others in order to get praise.

They are dramatic, and will exaggerate to make things seem more extreme than they are.

They have a tendency to be vain, and to care about how they look.

If nobody is paying attention to them, they will barge into a conversation or say something in order to attract some attention. They are very uncomfortable being left out.

Role
In our distant past, the sanguine members of the pack might have played a supportive, encouraging, social role. They would have been the glue that kept the group together.

In modern society, you might see them as entertainers, singers, dancers, or perhaps simply as the energetic people at parties. In fantasy, they might be Bards.
temperaments.fighunter.com

Strengths of a Sanguine

I or Intuitive – in the DISC Profile

The Extrovert | The Talker | The Optimist

The Sanguine’s Emotions
Appealing personality
Talkative, Storyteller
Life of the Party
Good sense of humor
Memory for color
Physically holds on to listener
Emotional and demonstrative
Enthusiastic and expressive
Cheerful and bubbling over
Curious
Good on stage
Wide-eyed and innocent
Lives in the present
Changeable disposition
Sincere at heart
Always a child

The Sanguine As A Parent
Makes Home Fun
Is liked by children’s friends
Turns disaster into humor
Is the circus master

The Sanguine At Work
Volunteers for Jobs
thinks up new activities
Looks great on the Surface
Creative and colorful
Has energy and enthusiasm
Starts in a flashy way
Inspires others to join
charms others to work

The Sanguine As a Friend
Makes friends easily
Loves People
Thrives on compliments
Seems exciting
envied by others
Doesn’t hold grudges
apologizes quickly
Prevents dull moments
Likes spontaneous activities

Weaknesses of a Sanguine
The Sanguine’s Emotions
Compulsive talker
Exaggerates and elaborates
Dwells on trivia
Can’t remember names
Scares others off
Too happy for some
Has restless energy
Egotistical
Blusters and complains
Naive, gets taken in
Has loud voice and laugh
Controlled by circumstances
Gets angry easily
Seems phony to some
Never Grows Up

The Sanguine As A Parent
Keeps home in a frenzy
Forgets children’s appointments
disorganized
Doesn’t listen to the whole story

The Sanguine At Work
Would rather talk
forgets obligations
Doesn’t follow through
Confidence fades fast
Undisciplined
Priorities out of order
Decides by feelings
Easily distracted
Wastes time talking

The Sanguine As a Friend
Hates to be alone
Needs to be center stage
Wants to be popular
Looks for credit
dominates conversations
Interrupts and doesn’t listen
answers for others
Fickle and forgetful
Makes excuses
Repeats stories

http://www.refinedperspectives.com/personality-explained.html

Choleric

In a nutshell…
Choleric people are the proud, extroverted ‘alphas’ of our species.

Dominant
Cholerics people are leaders and directors. They seek to be in control of situations, to be on top, to be the best.

This doesn’t necessarily mean that they are all driven to reach the top of the corporate ladder or anything, or that they all want to have leadership roles, but in day-to-day interactions with other people, they have a tendency towards one-upsmanship.

They use imperative, commanding language, wording things as orders rather than requests. Compare “get me a drink” to “can I have a drink?”. They probably use phrases like ‘deal with it’, ‘get over yourself’, ‘stop being such a wimp’, etc, or may start sentences with “look”, or maybe “look, buddy” or “listen, pal” or things like that.

They word things with confidence and certainty. Compare “X is this way” to “maybe X is this way, or something?”.

They are firm and forceful in their approach to problems. They believe in ‘tough love’, and try to ‘help’ others by challenging them to prove themselves, as they themselves would.

They’re more likely to tell someone who they are trying to ‘help’ that they’re pathetic, expecting the person to say ‘no, I’m not pathetic, I’ll show you!’, as indeed a choleric would in response to such a thing.

If met by opposition, they react confrontationally to defend themselves. They are constantly trying to be ‘dominant’ in every situation, subconsciously, either by being louder and better than those around them, or more restrained and therefore superior to those who lose their cool.

Most bullies are choleric, but few cholerics are bullies. Many will in fact stand up to those who bully others, rather than letting them get away with things.

Their confidence and demanding natures make them natural leaders, though this doesn’t mean that they would necessarily enjoy leadership positions; they’re just more likely to take charge if necessary rather than fumbling around worrying.

They will ‘challenge’ others aggressively in order to show their respect for the person’s strength. They believe that it is important to ‘prove oneself’.

They have a tendency to argue for reasons that are different to the melancholic. They’re more driven by a desire to prove themselves greater than whoever they’re arguing with, to assert that they are right, rather than to reach some kind of truth or compromise. They can lie in order to maintain the dominant position. The argument is about them moreso than the issue; a battle of egos rather than a quest for truth.

They say things like “if anyone tries to mess with me, I make them wish they’d never started on me in the first place”.

They love competition… but hate to lose.

They are defiant of authority, challenging them as if to knock them off the top spot and assert their own dominance as the alpha of this pack, the leader of this tribe.

They can be very condescending to those that they look down upon.

They may take pleasure in the pain, misfortune, or humiliation of people they are not on good terms with. This is because it brings them pleasure to feel superior to others. “Haha! Look at that loser messing up! Hilarious!” (Compare this with the phlegmatic, who’d be more likely to feel distress when seeing someone being harmed, even if it was their worst enemy.)

Words like ‘hot-blooded’, ‘brash’, ‘domineering’, ‘overbearing’, might be used to describe this temperament.

They blame others for their own mistakes, often to the point of lying to save face.

They feel that they can define and understand and advise others, but laugh at the thought that others could do the same to them. This is because analysing and defining another puts you in the superior position, while being defined would put them in the inferior position, which they resist.

Extroverted
Cholerics are extroverted in the sense that they will meddle in others’ affairs and ‘speak their mind’ if they feel it is necessary, rather than minding their own business.

They generally respond well to new situations, and seek thrills.

They seek to prove themselves externally, to show that they are great and the best and things like that. They must prove that they are strong.

They believe that it is important to ‘say things how they are’, to be bluntly honest about their opinions rather than ‘sugar-coating’ them.

They speak their mind, but often don’t mind their speech.

Their pride and drive for dominance, as well as their open expression of emotion, naturally leads to outright aggression when challenged. They will raise their voices and get angry to show that they are the biggest and strongest, and to assert superiority.

They brag and boast to show how amazing they are, in an ‘I am better than others’ kind of way.

They are pragmatic, doing what needs to be done bluntly rather than worrying about fantasy scenarios.

They will plough through obstacles that bar their path (metaphorically speaking); they are single-minded in moving towards their goals.

Proud
They generally believe that they are right, and have immense stubbornness about admitting their flaws, UNLESS admitting these flaws would make them look better than others (“I’m strong enough to admit I’m wrong, unlike you”).

They demand respect from others, and will hold grudges against those that they consider to be rivals.
They can be great, supportive friends who’d take a bullet for those close to them, unless you get on their bad side, in which case they’ll try their best to ‘rub your nose into the dirt’.

It is important to them that they are strong and courageous, not afraid of anything. If they are afraid, they will deny it (again, unless admitting it makes them look strong).

They often – but not necessarily – have high self-esteem.

They will ‘rise to the challenge’, in order to prove themselves, and look for opportunities to do so.

It’s important for them to be tough and strong.

They are in many ways the opposite of the phlegmatic in that they are controlling, assertive, and see conflict and challenge and competition as a desirable form of interaction.

They have similarities to the melancholic in that both are stubborn and opinionated, but the choleric is more forceful and ‘tough’ while the melancholic is uncertain and sensitive.

Cholerics strive for independence, because to be dependent is to rely on others, to not be in the superior position. Dependence is weakness.

They are ‘thick-skinned’, in many cases bulletproof against the criticisms of others, able to shrug or laugh them off.

Role
In our distant ancestors, the choleric members of the pack would be the alphas, the leaders. They would command their subordinates, and assert their dominance using force. If challenged, they would respond by getting angry, larger, in order to intimidate and to prove that THEY were the strongest, the most fit to lead.

In current society, they often tend towards leadership roles, such as managers, politicians, captains, team leaders, and so on, though not necessarily. In fantasy, they might be the proud warriors, the esteemed Kings.

http://temperaments.fighunter.com/

Choleric Strengths

D or Dominant in the DISC Profile Tool

The Extrovert | The Doer | The Optimist

The Choleric’s Emotions
Born leader
Dynamic and active
Compulsive need for change
Must correct wrongs
Strong-willed and decisive
Unemotional
Not easily discouraged
Independent and self sufficient
Exudes confidence
Can run anything

The Choleric As A Parent
Exerts sound leadership
Establishes Goals
Motivates family to action
Knows the right answer
Organizes household

The Choleric At Work
Goal oriented
Sees the whole picture
Organizes well
Seeks practical solutions
Moves quickly to action
Delegates work
Insists on production
Makes the goal
Stimulates activity
Thrives on opposition

The Choleric As a Friend
Has little need for friends
Will work for group activity
Will lead and organize
Is usually right
Excels in emergencies

Weaknesses of a Choleric

The Choleric’s Emotions
Bossy
Impatient
Quick-tempered
Can’t Relax
Too impetuous
Enjoys controversy and arguments
Won’t give up when loosing
Comes on too strong
Inflexible
Is not complimentary
Dislikes tears and emotions
Is unsympathetic

The Choleric As A Parent
Tends to over dominate
Too busy for family
Gives answers too quickly
Impatient with poor performance
Won’t let children relax
May send them into depression

The Choleric At Work
Little tolerance for mistakes
Doesn’t analyze details
Bored by trivia
May make rash decisions
May be rude or tactless
Manipulates people
Demanding of others
End justifies the means
Work may become his god
Demands loyalty in the ranks

The Choleric As a Friend
Tends to use people
Dominates others
Knows everything
Decides for others
Can do everything better
Is to independent
Possessive of friends and mate
Can’t say, “I’m Sorry”
May be right, but unpopular

http://www.refinedperspectives.com/personality-explained.html

Phlegmatic

In a nutshell…
Phlegmatic people are meek, submissive introverts who live to please others.

Submissive
Phlegmatics do not act as if they are better than others. They are eager to please, and quick to give in to others rather than asserting their own desires as if they’re the most important.

They take the path of least resistance whenever possible. They so desperately wish for peace, for everyone to get along, and to avoid conflict at all costs.

Conflict terrifies them. They do not start it (except perhaps in extreme circumstances), or provoke it, and try to defuse it when it comes up. When forced into an argument, they get very upset and distressed, seeking escape rather than victory.

If confronted, they are likely to admit that they are in the wrong in order to prevent hostilities.

They don’t believe that they know best.

They have no desire to be a ‘winner’; they only wish for peace.

They are well-behaved; rebelling against established rules would feel deeply uncomfortable to them. They’re the sort who’d say, worriedly, ‘should we really be doing this?’ or ‘we might get in trouble!’.

They really, really do not wish to be a bother to others, and always put others first. This is due to a deep-rooted unease about asserting themselves rather than a lack of confidence, or a conscious desire to be a ‘nice person’.

They are quick to apologise for any mistakes that they may have made, and will sacrifice their own happiness to ensure that others are happy.

They are empathetic, and acutely aware of the feelings of those that they are interacting with, as they do not wish to hurt these feelings.

They have tremendous difficulty saying no, and will go along with things that they dislike to make others happy.

They are extremely trustworthy; if they make a promise, it’s very likely that they will keep it.

They’re terrified of doing things wrong.

They will blame themselves if mistakes are made, even if it was someone else’s fault, just to make others feel better and more at ease.

They try and word things in a way that is not offensive to others. The will be more supportive than critical.

Indecisive
They’ll defer to others to make choices, and will feel upset and pressured if they have to make a decision themselves; this comes from their inability to see themselves in a ‘leader’ role.

They are natural followers, and work best when they are told what to do.

Their language is generally full of uncertain phrases such as ‘I think’, ‘maybe’, ‘perhaps’, ‘or something’. Compare “maybe you could do X, or something?” to “do X” or “you should do X”.

Rather than saying or doing the wrong thing, they’ll say or do nothing at all.

Obstacles that get in the way of their steady path will cause them to halt and fumble around, not sure what to do. They’re more likely to travel around than through it; their path is easily changed by others.

Calm
Phlegmatics are introverted, and enjoy time alone. However, they are much ‘nicer’ and more friendly and social than the melancholic, as they’re unburdened by ‘perfectionism’ and as such do not judge others.

They enjoy spending time with friends, and are very loyal to these friends, sticking with them through thick and thin, even through abuse. This is because they put others first, and will not leave another even if THEY want to because the other person may not want them to leave.

They are almost immune to anger. They have extremely long fuses, and will only snap after a long period of prolonged and persistent abuse. Even then, they’re more likely to retreat within themselves and cry than to try to harm another.

They like calm and steady lives, free of surprises. They can be relatively confident in familiar situations – if not necessarily assertive – but panic when placed in new ones. They do not seek thrills, and enjoy predictable, quiet, ritualistic lifestyles.

They are very quiet, and do not share their own inner thoughts readily, as they fear judgement and don’t wish to bother others by waffling on about themselves.

They are however excellent and attentive listeners, who will quietly and politely take in and absorb the conversations of their friends. They will always pay attention, and will offer supportive feedback rather than criticism or advice. They’d never say things like ‘bored now’, as if it’s the duty of others to entertain them.

Since they hate to offend or hurt others, they generally don’t ever resort to aggressive insults or attacks. Belittling or hurting another makes them feel bad, not ‘powerful and in control’ or amused, so they’ll worry about having done this accidentally.

They could be described as ‘nice guys/girls’ or, more horribly, ‘doormats’ by those with different temperaments.

They barely express emotion at all. While the sanguine might whoop and cheer and jump for joy at the slightest provocation, phlegmatics are unlikely to express more than a smile or a frown. Their emotions happen mainly internally.

They lack ‘passion’, as their emotions are mostly internal. They often rely on others ordering them to do things to get motivation.

Role
In our distant past, the phlegmatic members of a pack might have been the obedient followers who’d get much of the actual work done at the command of their superiors. They may not stand out, but without them, nothing would work.

They are the cooks, the cleaners, the quiet office drones, the redshirts, the white mages.
http://temperaments.fighunter.com

Strengths of a Phlegmatic

The Introvert | The Watcher | The Pessimist

Steady – S in DISC Profile

The Phlegmatic’s Emotions
Low-key personality
Easygoing and relaxed
Calm, cool and collected
Patient and well balanced
Consistent life
Quiet but witty
Sympathetic and kind
Keeps emotions hidden
Happily reconciled to life
All-purpose person

The Phlegmatic As A Parent
Makes a good parent
Takes time for the children
Is not in a hurry
Can take the good with the bad
Doesn’t get upset easily

The Phlegmatic At Work

Competent and steady
Peaceful and agreeable
Has administrative ability
Mediates problems
Avoids conflicts
Good under pressure
Finds the easy way

The Phlegmatic As a Friend
Easy to get along with
Pleasant and enjoyable
Inoffensive
Good listener
Dry sense of humor
Enjoys watching people
Has many friends
Has compassion and concern

Weaknesses of a Phlegmatic

The Phlegmatic’s Emotions
Unenthusiastic
Fearful and worried
Indecisive
Avoids responsibility
Quiet will of iron
Selfish
To shy and reticent
Too compromising
Self-righteous

The Phlegmatic As A Parent
Lax on discipline
Doesn’t organize home
Takes life to easy

The Phlegmatic At Work
Not goal oriented
Lacks self motivation
Hard to get moving
Resents being pushed
Lazy and careless
Discourages others
Would rather watch

The Phlegmatic As a Friend
Dampens enthusiasm
Stays uninvolved
Is not exciting
Indifferent to plans
Judges others
Sarcastic and teasing
Resists change
http://www.refinedperspectives.com/personality-explained.html

Melancholic

In a nutshell…
Melancholic people are emotionally sensitive, perfectionistic introverts.

Perfectionistic
The defining feature of a melancholic attitude is perfectionism. They are idealists who wish for things to be a certain way, and they get distressed when they are not.

They hold themselves and others to unrealistically high standards, and get distressed when these standards are not met.
This leads to them being self-deprecating – because they do not meet their own standards – and critical of others – because those others do not meet their standards.

Their generally dour demeanour comes from their inner struggle between an imperfect world and a desire for perfection.

Many melancholics wish to learn and to understand, to know the details of every little thing, because to be ignorant is to stray from perfection. They are not content to just accept things the way that they are.
They are inquisitive and ask specific questions in order to come to a clearer understanding.

This leads many of them to be overanalytical, neurotic worriers.

They are very stubborn, because they try very hard to stick to their own carefully considered views and standards of perfection, and are not easily shifted from this path. They do not go with the flow.

They are tenacious and cannot let things go, because ‘good enough’ is not good enough. They strive for perfection.

They are very pessimistic, and assume the worst due to these unrealistic standards.

They think and plan before they act; they are not the types who will resort to rash, impulsive behaviour, and will panic if they are unable to plan in advance.

It’s easier for them to reject and hate things than it is for them to love and embrace them. Their interests and tastes are picked carefully, and they give a lot of attention to each one, and hold them close to their hearts, rather than having many fleeting interests that change quickly and often.

They complain a lot, in a ‘whinging’ kind of way rather than a ‘put down’ or ‘demanding’ kind of way.

They tend to argue, because they cannot simply let things be if they seem wrong. They argue using reason, evidence, logic, and explanations, delivered analytically or with pleading. They only argue to set wrongs right, rather than to assert dominance. The argument is about the issue, not about them.

They respond poorly to compliments, often ‘rebutting’ them by saying that they’re not so great after all.
“Wow, that’s a really nice painting you just made!”
“I don’t know, the eyes are probably too big…” (rather than “Thanks!”)

They will blame themselves for mistakes, because they are acutely aware of their own imperfection.

They tend to prefer things to be tidy, organised in some way or another. This doesn’t necessarily mean ‘neat’ as such; often they have very idiosyncratic organisation methods.

They are idealists, who imagine perfect fantasies and feel upset when things don’t live up to these fantasies.

They prefer to tackle the heart of the matter, which can lead to them avoiding ‘beating around the bush’.

Introverted
Melancholics are the most introverted of the temperaments in that they crave time alone, and are most at ease in their own company.

They can enjoy spending time with others, but this drains their energy, and they need alone time in order to recharge.

Much of their introversion comes from their perfectionism. They are picky about the sorts of people that they associate with; people who meet their standards and share their outlook. People that don’t will make them uncomfortable; they do not wish to talk to ‘anyone and everyone’.
Their self-deprecation also makes them think that they might not be very interesting anyway, that they aren’t really worth spending time with, even if they know in the depths of their minds that they are very interesting indeed.

Once they have someone to talk to in a quiet and relaxed environment, they can talk a lot and will enjoy sharing thoughts and ideas.

They are very wary of making friends. Unlike sanguines, it can take them a very long time for them to consider someone they’re familiar with a ‘friend’, but once they’ve reached this point, they will likely stick with that person loyally.

They prefer having a few close friends to many acquaintances.

They can be seen as selfish, because they prefer to be alone with their thoughts, to have their own things, rather than sharing time or possessions socially with others.
They are usually very possessive about the things that they own and are reluctant to let others borrow or use them, because they treat their own things well, care about everything deeply, and will worry that others will not look after them with the same level of care.

They could be described as ‘intense’, rather than ‘easy-going’.

Sensitive
Melancholics are very emotional. They are moved deeply by beauty, and by distress. They are very easily hurt, because of their perfectionistic tendencies.
Often their moods are like delicate glass sculptures; built up slowly, deliberately, and carefully, but easily broken, and hard to repair once shattered.

They respond to things that they dislike with misery and with tears rather than with rage.

They are very slow to ‘snap’, but will hold onto emotions for a very long time. They hold grudges, because people who have failed to meet their standards, who have hurt them, will not just suddenly meet those standards without changing drastically.

They can become very ‘moody’, and they can be difficult to interact with because they are so easily hurt.

They are not aggressive, and wish to flee from things that cause them distress.

If they want to get back at another person, they are more likely to make them feel guilty than to insult them bluntly.

They are ‘thin-skinned’.

Role
In our distant ancestors, the melancholic members of a pack may have been the analysts, the information gatherers. They scouted for potential danger, or for food, and reported back to the pack leader. The more accurate their findings were, the better; this led to a trend towards perfectionism, as the ‘analysts’ closer to perfection survived better than those that made sloppy mistakes.

In current society, they often tend towards analytical roles such as scientists, analysts, programmers, logicians, and so on. In fantasy settings, they may be wizards or sages.
http://temperaments.fighunter.com

The Melancholy

SC or Conscientious – in the DISC Profile

The Introvert | The Thinker | The Pessimist

The Melancholy’s Emotions
Deep and thoughtfully
Analytical
Serious and purposeful
Genius prone
Talented and creative
Artistic or musical
Philosophical and poetic
appreciative of beauty
Sensitive to others
Self-sacrificing
Conscientious
Idealistic

The Melancholy As A Parent
Sets high standards
Wants everything done right
Keeps home in good order
Picks up after children
Sacrifices own will for others
Encourages scholarship and talent

The Melancholy At Work
Schedule oriented
Perfectionist, high standards
Detail conscious
Persistent and thorough
Orderly and organized
Neat and tidy
Economical
Sees the problems
Finds creative solutions
Needs to finish what he starts
Likes charts, graphs, figures, lists

The Melancholy As a Friend
Makes friends cautiously
Content to stay in background
Avoids causing attention
Faithful and devoted
Will listen to complaints
Can solve other’s problems
Deep concern for other people
Moved to tears with compassion
Seeks ideal mate

Weakness of a Melancholy

The Melancholy’s Emotions
Remembers the negatives
Moody and depressed
Enjoys being hurt
Has false humility
Off in another world
Low self-image
Has selective hearing
Self-centered
Too introspective
Guilt feelings
Persecution complex
Tends to hypochondria

The Melancholy As A Parent
Puts goals beyond reach
May discourage children
May be too meticulous
Becomes martyr
Sulks over disagreements
Puts guilt upon children

The Melancholy At Work
Not people oriented
Depressed over imperfections
Chooses difficult work
Hesitant to start projects
Spends to much time planning
Prefers analysis to work
Self-deprecating
Hard to please
Standards often to high
Deep need for approval

The Melancholy As a Friend
Lives through others
Insecure socially
Withdrawn and remote
critical of others
Holds back affections
Dislikes those in opposition
Suspicious of people
Antagonistic and vengeful
Unforgiving
Full of contradictions
Skeptical of compliments
http://www.refinedperspectives.com/personality-explained.html